By Maureen Oliver
ISBN: 978-1-84747-121-5
Published: 2007
Pages: 129
Key Themes: poetry, schizophrenia, activism
Description
This is a collection of Maureen's first two books - 'Breaking Down' & 'Poetry', both first published as e-books and now available for the first time in paperback.
Breaking Down
'Breaking Down' is the personal record of a 'psychotic' breakdown. The author was, at the time, a single mother and lesbian activist campaigning vigorously for gay rights. She faithfully recorded her visions and voices, and the diary shows her desperate attempt to make sense of, and to survive, mental disintegration and schizophrenia.
Poetry
This inspiring collection of poems was written over a twenty-five year period and documents the experiences and thoughts of Maureen during this most tumultuous period of her life. Her poems are warm and her language elegant. In the new genre of 'mad poetry' this is a key collection, written by one of its main exponents.
About the Author
Maureen Oliver is a lesbian artist and poet, a mother and grandmother, and a psychiatric survivor with a current diagnosis of Schizoaffective Disorder.
Book Extracts
Breaking Down
I keep arriving at the FIRE. Voices urge me to enter it - say I must enter it - that I am already starting to go into it. I stand in the enclosed space of the tunnel, surrounded by damp, dripping rocks. I am naked and vulnerable - the fire burns before me up into the darkness, across the pathway. Its flames are blue-green tipped, orange at centre, the pathway to one side slips away to bottomless depths where I feel dark water flows - the other side is the solid rock - I can see the pathway continuing on the other side winding on and on, twisting slightly - far in the distance is turquoise light - a black, eye-like sun blinks through a tiny opening - golden rays - like shining lashes radiate from it. I am cold - the fire does not give off warmth - I am icy-cold, ice burning in the darkness.
Voices: 'You see what you've done Maureen?'
What have I done? I don't see at all.
'You can't see us but we are here, we can read your thoughts'. These voices usually come from behind me. When I hear them I am also (usually) experiencing a numb sensation spreading from the right side of my head to the right side in the front of the face - forehead, cheekbones. Also a floating sensation and a sense of unreality? Though the world presses in on me - hyper-real.
It occurs to me later - Maureen is me/Anu - is she also me (my second name is Ann). Marina? My Grandad used to call me something like that when I was a child. So Marina and Anu are related to my own being/participate in/are connected to me/my life/my experience. The balance holds as long as Maureen has control most of the time, which she does at present/if Anu or Marina took over, if Maureen became less it would be a DISASTER. Marina is connected to the girl in the enclosed cavern who cries out naked and alone in the room without doors.
They placed me in the fire - chanting, taunting me. I was consumed by the fire. Then I was not Anu - or Maureen - I was in a vacuum. The vacuum was in me. It was utter, outer darkness. I had consciousness without existence. I was emptiness, nothingness, the void. It was terrible. It went on and on - timeless, spaceless, formless. It was hard to come to. I was in my body without feeling my body for a long time. When I first came back I was Marina - weak and afraid. I aroused disgust in S (note: my partner at that time) Now I feel true solitude and the edge of icy despair.
I try to get through my work and be fully tuned into the material plane. It is difficult. Doctor Aru says I should go back on major tranquillizers. What shit! This is surely no way to solve the problems. Should I try to find a counsellor? Is there a way through and out of the tunnel? Sussanah was clearly a gateway. Since she left me, cold and empty and sad, I have not been there so often. I still feel its pull and I have been called back by unseen forces.
I am concentrating to stay on the material plane - but am not working as well as before. I have to find some healing to make me strong and able to work well again - people expect it of me - it is my Karma to help and heal others yet this battle of my soul makes it all so difficult. Part of me wants to find a physical cause. I am having blood tests. I was beaten by the police on a demonstration 3 weeks ago and still can't straighten my left leg.
I feel a clear passage of white light from Heaven through me to the earth below. Energy returns to me- I must use it rightly.
Within me is the Spirit of Hecate - Goddess of Darkness and the Moon. The ancient priestess - death, rebirth and regeneration.
My foolish enemies were moths flying into a candle flame. A new direction awaits me - and the Ace of Swords. I must follow this pathway of my spirit and learn to loosen the ties of temporal power.
If I must go alone then Blessed Be.
Towards the end of last nights ACT UP - my mind kept going completely blank - embarrassing and difficult. I feel as though I'm slipping, sliding, trying to climb a glacier. Last Thursday I was arrested on an ACT UP demonstration - held three hours in Bow Street cells - I felt faint and dizzy. I wasn't allowed a drink of tea or to see a doctor. I was charged with obstruction.
The illness I suffered before hangs like some dread curtain in my mind. Also, I mentioned to some ACT UP women that I had been on a 'psyche ward' and caught looks of horror. I told Dennis (co-worker and friend) and he said they would automatically fear unreliability. But haven't I proved my reliability over and over again? Must I be judged for this illness and found guilty? I have vowed not to hide it in the same way I vowed not to hide being gay. But the punishment and prejudice are everywhere. I didn't do anything bad, or wicked or irresponsible. I was ILL. I hate the new idea that there's no such thing as mental illness because it makes us out to be wanton, bad people.
Having received the Talisman from Kevin (Quiveen) note: my brother, have now comprehended something VITAL. ISIS my goddess! The Bright Fertile Mother who contains the DARK MOTHER also...represents a perfect balance of spiritual manifestation. He has linked the Talisman with my NAME - Maureen - linking me to the spiritual forces implied. DARK PURPLE (I see purples and reds). Later, I got so carried away with this feeling of POWER that I was rushing around on a DIFFERENT DIMENSION to people - I'd dressed in PURPLE and put on RED lipstick (purples and reds)...
I am still trying to work...
Poetry
Little Boy Blue,
sighs and shining eyes,
stirring coffee and pining –
‘Oh secret sadness, oh tragedy,’
could I help him? Oh motherly me.
‘Let me talk to you, so sweet and kind,
so helpful, so nice, let me show you my mind.’
Oh charming, oh sad, emotionally pure,
you might think him sensitive,
you may well be wrong.
Oh, motherly ladies from Whitby to Poole
are waiting the visit of Little Boy Blue.
The ladies who understand sad little boys
are wanting to comfort him, offer him toys.
You might think him an angel,
you may be deluded.
The ladies who offered this cherub their all
are lying to husbands, some in the grave,
some knotted in strait jackets –
but the comfort they gave!
Some have taken to drink, some in therapy,
some gave him their money, some just offered tea.
Oh kindly ladies from Whitby to Poole
don’t give him sweeties, don’t warm him in bed,
don’t talk with him, offer him spiritual aid.
Your heart will be emptied, your soul will be raped –
for he swallows them whole, he digests them all,
those kind, helpful ladies from Whitby to Poole.
Trust
Trust, they tell me
is what I need.
‘Trust me, trust us and
we will pour oil on those
wounds, we will heal your pain,
if you only trust in us.’
The mask seems golden,
the smile benign,
light plays around the hollows
of the eyes,
russet shadows flicker lovingly
across cheekbones, and
I am enticed, almost under a spell.
Faltering, trusting, I reveal my secrets,
like some damned dance of the Seven Veils
in Hell, till, vulnerable in my innocence
I observe with horror that
dark lies and rude cruelty now
stain the welcoming visage, and,v at the portal of Hades, I hesitate,
turn back to retrace my steps, but
flight is impossible for
he holds the seeds
of my soul in his palm – and
now winningly,
the therapist smiles –
showing his teeth.
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Friday, 21 September 2007
Abi's Story By Teferra Haile-Giorgis
Abi's Story
£12.00
By Teferra Haile-Giorgis
ISBN: 978-1-84747-009-6
Published: 2006
Pages: 124
Key Themes: suicide, ethnic minorities, post-traumatic stress disorder
Description
Written by his mother, this is the tragic story of Abi, a young man from Ethiopia who took his own life after a battle against mental illness. Abi escaped the horror of Ethiopia’s Marxist military revolution, this book provides a unique insight into the psychological trauma suffered by the victims of war. This original and extraordinarily moving book charts Abi’s life in words and pictures and attempts to make sense of his tragic death.
About the Author
Dr Teferra Haile-Giorgis is Abi's mother. This book was written by her and her family in Abi's memory. Dr Haile-Giorgis set up a trust to fund research into the psychological problems of the victims of war. Her aim is to help people in a similar position to her son. She also wants to provide more insight into this area and inform psychiatrists of this type of ‘mental illness’.
Book Extract
We never know what it feels like to be with the Good Lord where we have no more earthly care to worry about. I hope, somehow, those who have left us to be with Him can see or know that their past concerns are addressed and their wishes have been fulfilled.
What was worrying our beloved Abi at the last session in the hospital consulting room, at the royal Preston Hospital, Avondale unit where we were sitting for group discussion? I clearly remember what the Psychiatrist said, “ I am afraid your son’s case does not fit into a British Black or a British white mental illness category”. I can just remember my son abruptly getting up very angry and rushing to the door, opening it and turning towards me before walking out. I can still hear him saying “ You are wasting your time, Emamma, this people are dummies. I have repeatedly told you that they do not understand my case. I think that, if I ever get healed, I will help other victims like myself. It will only be someone like me who has been through such illness that can help those in similar circumstances”. He was not only concerned for himself but for all others in similar circumstances. He obviously had a burning desire to be in a position to help those victims of political conflict, political imprisonment, displacement and other human suffering such as escapees, like himself, from enforced conscription.
In today’s world we are told that some 20 or more wars officially or unofficially go on in different parts of the world. Therefore, there must surely be more and more Abi’s whose pain, agony and depression and other related mental health problems are not understood or dismissed by the ordinary mental health services and psychiatrists.
Abi, very unfortunately, has suddenly chosen to leave us by taking his own life. We will always feel hurt and upset and cherish his memory whenever we think how much pain, agony and suffering have caused this action. But we can still save many of them who are in his ‛category’. We, as a family, have felt committed to his cause. Within our limitation we can, at least, address his concern by setting up a Trust to help carry out research which will result in attention being given and focusing on victims of wars, political conflicts, political imprisonment, enforced conscriptions and displacement as well as any direct or indirect problems related to these situations.
Abi, who has enabled this concern to be addressed, is challenging us today. May God help us to voice his grievances, be advocates for his cause and promote ideas to challenge the mental health institutions and psychiatrists, at all levels, to listen to voices of such victims and not be dismissive as Abi’s Psychiatrists were. In his death he challenges us all today, as we set up this Trust for all the neglected and misunderstood thousands whose human rights agendas had never been addressed in any meaningful way. Abi challenges us even in his death. May God almighty let him know that even though he is gone those who have suffered like him will get a relief in the future- however few or however many. May God make Abi’s dream a reality then for him the bells will toll to congratulate him for including us in his endeavour.
£12.00
By Teferra Haile-Giorgis
ISBN: 978-1-84747-009-6
Published: 2006
Pages: 124
Key Themes: suicide, ethnic minorities, post-traumatic stress disorder
Description
Written by his mother, this is the tragic story of Abi, a young man from Ethiopia who took his own life after a battle against mental illness. Abi escaped the horror of Ethiopia’s Marxist military revolution, this book provides a unique insight into the psychological trauma suffered by the victims of war. This original and extraordinarily moving book charts Abi’s life in words and pictures and attempts to make sense of his tragic death.
About the Author
Dr Teferra Haile-Giorgis is Abi's mother. This book was written by her and her family in Abi's memory. Dr Haile-Giorgis set up a trust to fund research into the psychological problems of the victims of war. Her aim is to help people in a similar position to her son. She also wants to provide more insight into this area and inform psychiatrists of this type of ‘mental illness’.
Book Extract
We never know what it feels like to be with the Good Lord where we have no more earthly care to worry about. I hope, somehow, those who have left us to be with Him can see or know that their past concerns are addressed and their wishes have been fulfilled.
What was worrying our beloved Abi at the last session in the hospital consulting room, at the royal Preston Hospital, Avondale unit where we were sitting for group discussion? I clearly remember what the Psychiatrist said, “ I am afraid your son’s case does not fit into a British Black or a British white mental illness category”. I can just remember my son abruptly getting up very angry and rushing to the door, opening it and turning towards me before walking out. I can still hear him saying “ You are wasting your time, Emamma, this people are dummies. I have repeatedly told you that they do not understand my case. I think that, if I ever get healed, I will help other victims like myself. It will only be someone like me who has been through such illness that can help those in similar circumstances”. He was not only concerned for himself but for all others in similar circumstances. He obviously had a burning desire to be in a position to help those victims of political conflict, political imprisonment, displacement and other human suffering such as escapees, like himself, from enforced conscription.
In today’s world we are told that some 20 or more wars officially or unofficially go on in different parts of the world. Therefore, there must surely be more and more Abi’s whose pain, agony and depression and other related mental health problems are not understood or dismissed by the ordinary mental health services and psychiatrists.
Abi, very unfortunately, has suddenly chosen to leave us by taking his own life. We will always feel hurt and upset and cherish his memory whenever we think how much pain, agony and suffering have caused this action. But we can still save many of them who are in his ‛category’. We, as a family, have felt committed to his cause. Within our limitation we can, at least, address his concern by setting up a Trust to help carry out research which will result in attention being given and focusing on victims of wars, political conflicts, political imprisonment, enforced conscriptions and displacement as well as any direct or indirect problems related to these situations.
Abi, who has enabled this concern to be addressed, is challenging us today. May God help us to voice his grievances, be advocates for his cause and promote ideas to challenge the mental health institutions and psychiatrists, at all levels, to listen to voices of such victims and not be dismissive as Abi’s Psychiatrists were. In his death he challenges us all today, as we set up this Trust for all the neglected and misunderstood thousands whose human rights agendas had never been addressed in any meaningful way. Abi challenges us even in his death. May God almighty let him know that even though he is gone those who have suffered like him will get a relief in the future- however few or however many. May God make Abi’s dream a reality then for him the bells will toll to congratulate him for including us in his endeavour.
A Divine Dance of Madness by Mairi Colme
A Divine Dance of Madness
£17.00
By Mairi Colme
ISBN: 978-1-84747-023-2
Published: 2006
Pages: 488
Key Themes: spirituality, secure units, manic depression, bi-polar disorder
Description
A strong and emotional book which captures the feelings and experiences of someone who is condemned as 'insane' and held in a secure unit. Mairi Colme's writing is full of mysticism and depth as she uses her given talent for writing to make sense of her lost years and her treatment at the hands of those who should be protecting her. This book will find resonance in anybody who has experienced what Mairi has and can act as a guide to those who would like to understand more about the debate over sectioning and secure units.
About the Author
Mairi Colme has an MA Honours degree in English language and literature, has trained in theology, and is now a Benedictine Oblate. She has written a great deal, including poetry and mystical texts. She is now working to set up a charitable foundation, promoting mental well-being and spiritual knowledge. This book is chiefly about a period in her life, the seven years from 1988 to 1995, when she was permanently sectioned and 'certified insane'. It is about all the adventures, the pain and the love, that she experienced as she struggled to escape from a dire fate.
Book Extract
This story is about “madness”; about the suffering which may drive us into madness, what that madness is like, and how we may return from such madness. It is I hope an insight for others into the condition labelled as “manic depression.” It is also about love; the universal love of God which was revealed to me in madness, and the love of one particular man, which was light to me in the darkness.
When I began this book two years ago it seemed to me it was primarily about the anguished scream of my motherhood, for I needed to express that scream. After explaining that for 7 years, from ’88 to ’95, I was permanently sectioned under the Mental Health act, robbed of my freedom, my integrity, my rights, I wrote at the time;-
“What they did to me was to take my young son, my only child, away from me; and I hardly ever saw him from the age of 4 till the age of 11! Why this was done I’ll never comprehend; for I was a single parent who gave her child a good upbringing from being a baby, and I never harmed him and was never a danger to him. Yet I suffered so acutely as a mother from the loss of my son, during those 7 years when I was sectioned, that I kept going “insane with pain.” The father, who abused me whilst I lived with him, and threw me out into the snow when I was pregnant, demanded to see “his son” after he was born; then he applied to the courts and continued to harass me until I fell ill; then when I was ill in the hospital he took custody off me, claiming that I was an “unfit mother” because “mentally ill.” Why did this happen? If I were a mother in hospital with a broken leg, would I not have had Access rights to my son? Would I have been denied seeing my young son for 6 months at a time? But because it was a “mental illness,”-a broken mind,- and a “mental hospital,” I wasn’t allowed to see him, no-one arranged that I could see him! I fought like hell for him, and I suffered abominably, and hardly anyone can comprehend what it is like to suffer as a mother in such a way! But this is my story; the story of what it is like to be driven mad by suffering!”
Having now finished the book, having expressed the pain and suffering of my own life and told my story, having “let it go,” letting it fall into the endlessness which is God, I can see it is about more than that. It is because it is about more than my own suffering that I have been inspired on Iona to commit myself to being there for others who are suffering similarly, and to work as far as I can to help others.
What is the book really about?
It is about the stigma against mental illness, which made me suffer so much as a mother deprived of her young son. It is about the fact that the only way I could get well and transcend my illness was by escaping from the System, breaking the power that the mental health law held over me. It is a protest of my own, on behalf of everyone who is accounted “mentally ill,” an outcry of “Don’t do this to us!” We are not to be treated this way, in the way I myself was treated.
More than this, it is about the fact that in that madness I experienced, I “touched” God. It is a strange fact that throughout the centuries people have been considered “touched” by God when mad; only recently are people locked away and discarded as suffering a form of “sickness” or “abnormality.” We need to rethink this, so that we respect, we honour those who are mad rather than rubbishing them. My story is about an understanding of God, about the energy I touched, - the energy at the core of the universe which is Love.
This book is indeed “my story,” of my own solitary suffering; but all the universal dimensions are what the book is really about.
I have entitled it as I have because the notion of “dancing” with God comes from the Book of the Beloved, Page 20; for in that mystical story, when God invites “Come and embrace me,” I hang back because fearful that to embrace God would entail cold and death-like suffering. I didn’t have the courage or strength to embrace him, until he touched the pulse-point of the love within me; then when I did, I found Him “warm and living,” and He whispered “Come dance with me.” This story, which shows my willingness to suffer, forms the connection between the mystical perfect ideal of “saying Yes to God,” and my own physical, miserable, abused condition in the conceiving of my son. For in giving birth, the dance of suffering God led me into, was really the dance of life!
I recently told someone whose opinion I trust, “no-one will want to read this story because it is so tragic, and so, so sad,” and she replied “but what comes across is your courage.” And so I hope at the end of the day that my story comes over as life-affirming.
£17.00
By Mairi Colme
ISBN: 978-1-84747-023-2
Published: 2006
Pages: 488
Key Themes: spirituality, secure units, manic depression, bi-polar disorder
Description
A strong and emotional book which captures the feelings and experiences of someone who is condemned as 'insane' and held in a secure unit. Mairi Colme's writing is full of mysticism and depth as she uses her given talent for writing to make sense of her lost years and her treatment at the hands of those who should be protecting her. This book will find resonance in anybody who has experienced what Mairi has and can act as a guide to those who would like to understand more about the debate over sectioning and secure units.
About the Author
Mairi Colme has an MA Honours degree in English language and literature, has trained in theology, and is now a Benedictine Oblate. She has written a great deal, including poetry and mystical texts. She is now working to set up a charitable foundation, promoting mental well-being and spiritual knowledge. This book is chiefly about a period in her life, the seven years from 1988 to 1995, when she was permanently sectioned and 'certified insane'. It is about all the adventures, the pain and the love, that she experienced as she struggled to escape from a dire fate.
Book Extract
This story is about “madness”; about the suffering which may drive us into madness, what that madness is like, and how we may return from such madness. It is I hope an insight for others into the condition labelled as “manic depression.” It is also about love; the universal love of God which was revealed to me in madness, and the love of one particular man, which was light to me in the darkness.
When I began this book two years ago it seemed to me it was primarily about the anguished scream of my motherhood, for I needed to express that scream. After explaining that for 7 years, from ’88 to ’95, I was permanently sectioned under the Mental Health act, robbed of my freedom, my integrity, my rights, I wrote at the time;-
“What they did to me was to take my young son, my only child, away from me; and I hardly ever saw him from the age of 4 till the age of 11! Why this was done I’ll never comprehend; for I was a single parent who gave her child a good upbringing from being a baby, and I never harmed him and was never a danger to him. Yet I suffered so acutely as a mother from the loss of my son, during those 7 years when I was sectioned, that I kept going “insane with pain.” The father, who abused me whilst I lived with him, and threw me out into the snow when I was pregnant, demanded to see “his son” after he was born; then he applied to the courts and continued to harass me until I fell ill; then when I was ill in the hospital he took custody off me, claiming that I was an “unfit mother” because “mentally ill.” Why did this happen? If I were a mother in hospital with a broken leg, would I not have had Access rights to my son? Would I have been denied seeing my young son for 6 months at a time? But because it was a “mental illness,”-a broken mind,- and a “mental hospital,” I wasn’t allowed to see him, no-one arranged that I could see him! I fought like hell for him, and I suffered abominably, and hardly anyone can comprehend what it is like to suffer as a mother in such a way! But this is my story; the story of what it is like to be driven mad by suffering!”
Having now finished the book, having expressed the pain and suffering of my own life and told my story, having “let it go,” letting it fall into the endlessness which is God, I can see it is about more than that. It is because it is about more than my own suffering that I have been inspired on Iona to commit myself to being there for others who are suffering similarly, and to work as far as I can to help others.
What is the book really about?
It is about the stigma against mental illness, which made me suffer so much as a mother deprived of her young son. It is about the fact that the only way I could get well and transcend my illness was by escaping from the System, breaking the power that the mental health law held over me. It is a protest of my own, on behalf of everyone who is accounted “mentally ill,” an outcry of “Don’t do this to us!” We are not to be treated this way, in the way I myself was treated.
More than this, it is about the fact that in that madness I experienced, I “touched” God. It is a strange fact that throughout the centuries people have been considered “touched” by God when mad; only recently are people locked away and discarded as suffering a form of “sickness” or “abnormality.” We need to rethink this, so that we respect, we honour those who are mad rather than rubbishing them. My story is about an understanding of God, about the energy I touched, - the energy at the core of the universe which is Love.
This book is indeed “my story,” of my own solitary suffering; but all the universal dimensions are what the book is really about.
I have entitled it as I have because the notion of “dancing” with God comes from the Book of the Beloved, Page 20; for in that mystical story, when God invites “Come and embrace me,” I hang back because fearful that to embrace God would entail cold and death-like suffering. I didn’t have the courage or strength to embrace him, until he touched the pulse-point of the love within me; then when I did, I found Him “warm and living,” and He whispered “Come dance with me.” This story, which shows my willingness to suffer, forms the connection between the mystical perfect ideal of “saying Yes to God,” and my own physical, miserable, abused condition in the conceiving of my son. For in giving birth, the dance of suffering God led me into, was really the dance of life!
I recently told someone whose opinion I trust, “no-one will want to read this story because it is so tragic, and so, so sad,” and she replied “but what comes across is your courage.” And so I hope at the end of the day that my story comes over as life-affirming.
A Cry For Help by Stephen Drake
A Cry For Help
£12.00
By Stephen Drake
ISBN: 978-1-84747-001-0
First published: 2003
This edition: 2006
Pages: 192
Key Themes: obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), agoraphobia, prison
AS FEATURED IN 'THAT'S LIFE' MAGAZINE!
Description
This is the true story of a young man who suffers from obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD). This condition drives him to crime and to periods in custody. The author writes with vigour of his dealings with other people, especially in a young offender's institution. This is a raw book, and the prose style mirrors that rawness. Stephen has a terrible fear, amongst others, of harming an elderly lady. Having to continually check that each and every elderly woman he passed in the street or came into everyday contact had not suffered at his hands. He had no urge to harm them, he just had terrible fears that he might. He was obsessed with 'not' being responsible for any harm to an elderly lady. Life, in general society, became unbearable! He decided that prison was the answer to his prayers; a safe haven. No old women in prison! A life of crime, with little regard to detection, followed. Life in British jails as a young prisoner and terms in young offenders institutions are described. You might feel pity or, perhaps, disgust when reading his unusual, but true, story.
About the Author
Stephen Drake was born in Surrey in 1970 and was diagnosed with OCD in 1989, having spent periods in jail due to the condition. Further custody followed as stress heightened his obsessions. In 2006 Stephen wrote his first book entitled 'A Cry For Help' as a way of expressing his problems and changing his wayward course. 'A Cry For Ever' followed a year later, having been encouraged by benefits from his first book.
Book Extract
He didn’t care. Maybe that wasn’t true. As the words of fury passed his lips his left hand grasped his right. He knew the reason - he certainly wasn’t going to strike an old woman. No chance. The road was quiet with fields on one side and trees the other.
“Did you hit that woman?” Charlie asked himself yet again. “Can you remember punching her?”
He replayed the moment in his mind attempting to ease his fears.
“No, I can’t picture myself clumping her,” he answered his own question.
“What if you did harm her in some way,” the voice, presumably his, forced an entrance.
Charlie, too concerned with his own predicament, ignored the distant sounds of laughter.
He failed to notice the three youths until he walked into them. Maybe he had seen them but, being so on edge, didn’t care. He wouldn’t even deny walking into the group on purpose. What had he got to lose?
“Watch it, mate,” shouted one of the group, “why can’t you look where you’re going?”
“Get fucked,” Charlie growled, in no mood for sensible suggestions.
He wasn’t scared of their reaction, his mind being filled with more urgent matters. It wouldn’t have bothered the young man if he finished the evening in a casualty department; all he craved was reassurance that he hadn’t assaulted the elderly female. While that concern occupied his thoughts, nothing else was of importance. This single-minded approach exasperated the stocky youth - it took a great deal to infuriate Charlie but where much had failed, his deranged thought process succeeded. He attempted to push pass the gang who prevented his progress. Caution had been thrown to the wind - why should he show respect to others when his own mind was intent on destruction.
OTHER BOOKS ON OCD
£12.00
By Stephen Drake
ISBN: 978-1-84747-001-0
First published: 2003
This edition: 2006
Pages: 192
Key Themes: obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), agoraphobia, prison
AS FEATURED IN 'THAT'S LIFE' MAGAZINE!
Description
This is the true story of a young man who suffers from obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD). This condition drives him to crime and to periods in custody. The author writes with vigour of his dealings with other people, especially in a young offender's institution. This is a raw book, and the prose style mirrors that rawness. Stephen has a terrible fear, amongst others, of harming an elderly lady. Having to continually check that each and every elderly woman he passed in the street or came into everyday contact had not suffered at his hands. He had no urge to harm them, he just had terrible fears that he might. He was obsessed with 'not' being responsible for any harm to an elderly lady. Life, in general society, became unbearable! He decided that prison was the answer to his prayers; a safe haven. No old women in prison! A life of crime, with little regard to detection, followed. Life in British jails as a young prisoner and terms in young offenders institutions are described. You might feel pity or, perhaps, disgust when reading his unusual, but true, story.
About the Author
Stephen Drake was born in Surrey in 1970 and was diagnosed with OCD in 1989, having spent periods in jail due to the condition. Further custody followed as stress heightened his obsessions. In 2006 Stephen wrote his first book entitled 'A Cry For Help' as a way of expressing his problems and changing his wayward course. 'A Cry For Ever' followed a year later, having been encouraged by benefits from his first book.
Book Extract
He didn’t care. Maybe that wasn’t true. As the words of fury passed his lips his left hand grasped his right. He knew the reason - he certainly wasn’t going to strike an old woman. No chance. The road was quiet with fields on one side and trees the other.
“Did you hit that woman?” Charlie asked himself yet again. “Can you remember punching her?”
He replayed the moment in his mind attempting to ease his fears.
“No, I can’t picture myself clumping her,” he answered his own question.
“What if you did harm her in some way,” the voice, presumably his, forced an entrance.
Charlie, too concerned with his own predicament, ignored the distant sounds of laughter.
He failed to notice the three youths until he walked into them. Maybe he had seen them but, being so on edge, didn’t care. He wouldn’t even deny walking into the group on purpose. What had he got to lose?
“Watch it, mate,” shouted one of the group, “why can’t you look where you’re going?”
“Get fucked,” Charlie growled, in no mood for sensible suggestions.
He wasn’t scared of their reaction, his mind being filled with more urgent matters. It wouldn’t have bothered the young man if he finished the evening in a casualty department; all he craved was reassurance that he hadn’t assaulted the elderly female. While that concern occupied his thoughts, nothing else was of importance. This single-minded approach exasperated the stocky youth - it took a great deal to infuriate Charlie but where much had failed, his deranged thought process succeeded. He attempted to push pass the gang who prevented his progress. Caution had been thrown to the wind - why should he show respect to others when his own mind was intent on destruction.
OTHER BOOKS ON OCD
A Collection of My Thoughts by Anna Ballard
A Collection of My Thoughts
£12.00
Living With Depression
By Anna Ballard
ISBN: 978-1-84747-008-9
Published: 2006
Pages: 226
Key Themes: depression, poetry
Description
This insightful book takes you on a journey through the feelings of mental health sufferers on the long road to recovery. Anna provides an emotive understanding of depression and seeks to eliminate the stigma related to it. Heart warming and emotional poetry which will be enjoyed by anybody but particularly those who have a similar history to Anna.
What prompted me to start writing was a change in antidepressant, which I believe stimulated the creative part of my brain (the right hemisphere) that wasn’t being used before. The effect was quite dramatic and within a week of starting on the new drug I began to churn out my thoughts as poetry. I had never written anything before but what initially started out as a whim rapidly turned into something more substantial. At my peak I was composing one or two poems a day but this has now moderated and I only write when something new happens in my life that I want to document it. Anna Ballard
About the Author
I was born and brought up in the Vale of Evesham, in the heart of England. As the youngest of four children (I have three older brothers) I was some what spoiled particularly by my father.
It was after the birth of my second child that I started to have mental health problems. Firstly I was diagnosed with post-natal depression but this soon turned into clinical depression and in 2000 I suffered a 'nervous breakdown'. I was sectioned under the Mental Health Act and detained in hospital for many weeks.
The road to recovery has been a bumpy one but my illness is now well managed with drugs and psychological backup. My research work has been curtailed but I am still employed in a hospital environment and I get a lot of job satisfaction from helping others. Recently I have started to give back to the system from which I have taken so much by sharing my poetry with other sufferers. I hope that what I have done will enlighten and inspire you the reader.
Book Extract
I was born and brought up in the Vale of Evesham, in the heart of England. As the youngest of four children (I have three older brothers) I was somewhat spoiled particularly by my father. However, as the youngest I spent my childhood striving to keep up with my siblings and this nurtured a very competitive spirit within me.
In consequence at school this spirit drove me forward and I became a high achiever gaining straight A grades at both O and A level. I was also very fortunate in that I was athletic. To begin with I was a fine swimmer and tennis player reaching county standard in both but when the swimming started to wane I transferred my efforts into canoeing. The village in which I lived had its own canoe club and the opportunities were there for the taking. My canoeing career spanned almost 20 years and I represented my country at four World Championships with my best result being 12th place. Sadly I don’t canoe anymore, except recreationally, but in order to satisfy my competitiveness I still play tennis two or three times a week.
During all these years in competitive sport I continued with my academic studies. I attended the University of Birmingham reading Biochemistry and was awarded a 1st Class honours degree followed by my PhD. I also gained two scholarships and received the RT Jones Prize which is awarded to a first year undergraduate who is outstanding in scholarship, personality and contribution to the life of the University as a whole. After University I spent the next 12 years doing medical research mainly looking at mutant strains of Hepatitis B. Again I was very successful as demonstrated by the 15 papers published during that time.
Since 1980 I have been supported by my husband who is himself a canoeing Olympian and who now joins me on the tennis courts. We have two children aged 13 and 10 and we live in a rural area just outside Lichfield to the north of Birmingham.
It was after the birth of my second child that I started to have mental health problems. Firstly I was diagnosed with post natal depression but this soon turned into clinical depression and in 2000 I suffered what you would call a “nervous breakdown”. At the time the children were young and demanding plus I was commuting everyday to Nottingham to carry out my research. Eventually something had to give and it was me. I was “sectioned” under the Mental Health Act and detained in hospital for many weeks.
The road to recovery has been a bumpy one but my illness is now well managed with drugs and psychological backup. My research work has been curtailed but I am still employed in a hospital environment and I get a lot of job satisfaction from helping others. Recently I have started to give back to the system from which I have taken so much by sharing the poetry in this book with other people, particularly with those whose lives are touched by mental illness. I hope that what I have done will enlighten and inspire you the reader in the future.
The take home message is one of hope in that for all sufferers of mental illness there is always the possibility of recovery. Of course this may involve taking medication and altering one’s perspective of life but eventually a way forward will be found. The poems I have written illustrate how recovery has happened for me and I would like to think that by writing down my experiences I may help others overcome their problems too.
£12.00
Living With Depression
By Anna Ballard
ISBN: 978-1-84747-008-9
Published: 2006
Pages: 226
Key Themes: depression, poetry
Description
This insightful book takes you on a journey through the feelings of mental health sufferers on the long road to recovery. Anna provides an emotive understanding of depression and seeks to eliminate the stigma related to it. Heart warming and emotional poetry which will be enjoyed by anybody but particularly those who have a similar history to Anna.
What prompted me to start writing was a change in antidepressant, which I believe stimulated the creative part of my brain (the right hemisphere) that wasn’t being used before. The effect was quite dramatic and within a week of starting on the new drug I began to churn out my thoughts as poetry. I had never written anything before but what initially started out as a whim rapidly turned into something more substantial. At my peak I was composing one or two poems a day but this has now moderated and I only write when something new happens in my life that I want to document it. Anna Ballard
About the Author
I was born and brought up in the Vale of Evesham, in the heart of England. As the youngest of four children (I have three older brothers) I was some what spoiled particularly by my father.
It was after the birth of my second child that I started to have mental health problems. Firstly I was diagnosed with post-natal depression but this soon turned into clinical depression and in 2000 I suffered a 'nervous breakdown'. I was sectioned under the Mental Health Act and detained in hospital for many weeks.
The road to recovery has been a bumpy one but my illness is now well managed with drugs and psychological backup. My research work has been curtailed but I am still employed in a hospital environment and I get a lot of job satisfaction from helping others. Recently I have started to give back to the system from which I have taken so much by sharing my poetry with other sufferers. I hope that what I have done will enlighten and inspire you the reader.
Book Extract
I was born and brought up in the Vale of Evesham, in the heart of England. As the youngest of four children (I have three older brothers) I was somewhat spoiled particularly by my father. However, as the youngest I spent my childhood striving to keep up with my siblings and this nurtured a very competitive spirit within me.
In consequence at school this spirit drove me forward and I became a high achiever gaining straight A grades at both O and A level. I was also very fortunate in that I was athletic. To begin with I was a fine swimmer and tennis player reaching county standard in both but when the swimming started to wane I transferred my efforts into canoeing. The village in which I lived had its own canoe club and the opportunities were there for the taking. My canoeing career spanned almost 20 years and I represented my country at four World Championships with my best result being 12th place. Sadly I don’t canoe anymore, except recreationally, but in order to satisfy my competitiveness I still play tennis two or three times a week.
During all these years in competitive sport I continued with my academic studies. I attended the University of Birmingham reading Biochemistry and was awarded a 1st Class honours degree followed by my PhD. I also gained two scholarships and received the RT Jones Prize which is awarded to a first year undergraduate who is outstanding in scholarship, personality and contribution to the life of the University as a whole. After University I spent the next 12 years doing medical research mainly looking at mutant strains of Hepatitis B. Again I was very successful as demonstrated by the 15 papers published during that time.
Since 1980 I have been supported by my husband who is himself a canoeing Olympian and who now joins me on the tennis courts. We have two children aged 13 and 10 and we live in a rural area just outside Lichfield to the north of Birmingham.
It was after the birth of my second child that I started to have mental health problems. Firstly I was diagnosed with post natal depression but this soon turned into clinical depression and in 2000 I suffered what you would call a “nervous breakdown”. At the time the children were young and demanding plus I was commuting everyday to Nottingham to carry out my research. Eventually something had to give and it was me. I was “sectioned” under the Mental Health Act and detained in hospital for many weeks.
The road to recovery has been a bumpy one but my illness is now well managed with drugs and psychological backup. My research work has been curtailed but I am still employed in a hospital environment and I get a lot of job satisfaction from helping others. Recently I have started to give back to the system from which I have taken so much by sharing the poetry in this book with other people, particularly with those whose lives are touched by mental illness. I hope that what I have done will enlighten and inspire you the reader in the future.
The take home message is one of hope in that for all sufferers of mental illness there is always the possibility of recovery. Of course this may involve taking medication and altering one’s perspective of life but eventually a way forward will be found. The poems I have written illustrate how recovery has happened for me and I would like to think that by writing down my experiences I may help others overcome their problems too.
Dolly Sen A Collection of Books
A Collection Of Books
£12.00
By Dolly Sen
ISBN: 978-1-84747-163-5
Published: 2007
Pages: 122
Key Themes:
"I had my first psychotic experience aged 14 and stopped going to school. A series of dead end jobs followed. Pretty early on I decided I didn’t want any more of the 9-5 s**t and spoon race, and began to write… and maybe watch 70s cop shows!" - Dolly Sen
Description
Three new books, combined in one edition, from this prolific and imaginative author and poet.
MAENAD ANGEL POETICS: The Song of a Rejected Angel
"It is a dark book with strong and sometimes troubling images which confront meaning and preconceptions." Jim Bennett, The Poetry Kit.
ECCENTRIC FISH
Dolly Sen's latest book, a book swimming with eccentric fish...
"Eccentric fish swimming in set concrete
But still making the shore
Still seeing the sun
Still growing flowers
Still smiling in a world of endless liars."
THE BOOK OF TORN UP SUICIDE NOTES
Suicide notes as poems? But not without a little humour.
“Very humorous and ironic, excellent work.” Magpie Marx, Launchpad
About the Author
Author, poet and activist Dolly Sen lives in Streatham, South London. Born in 1970, she had her first psychotic experience aged 14 which lead her to leave school. After years of mental illness, probably bought on by an abusive childhood, Dolly decided she should write about her experiences. She was inspired to write her own story after reading Jason Pegler's autobiography 'A Can of Madness'. She has since written five books, become a successful performance poet who has toured throughout Europe and has set up two charities. Dolly is a key figure in the mental health movement and regularly appears on television and radio talking about mental health issues.
Book Extract
I smiled and loved and laughed
As a child
Growing
Growing
Growing
Gone
I found my place in the world
- the madhouse
An empty room
A ticking clock
Measuring your eternal absence
With the vanity of the second
Taking all the time in the world
Oblivion is not total
I am aware of it.
Everyone’s an angel
Your sanity calls that madness
Your sanity’s
Your vanity
There’s no room in the mirror for you
Your mirror is on backward
Earthquake
Heartbreak
Somewhere
Something
Breaks
£12.00
By Dolly Sen
ISBN: 978-1-84747-163-5
Published: 2007
Pages: 122
Key Themes:
"I had my first psychotic experience aged 14 and stopped going to school. A series of dead end jobs followed. Pretty early on I decided I didn’t want any more of the 9-5 s**t and spoon race, and began to write… and maybe watch 70s cop shows!" - Dolly Sen
Description
Three new books, combined in one edition, from this prolific and imaginative author and poet.
MAENAD ANGEL POETICS: The Song of a Rejected Angel
"It is a dark book with strong and sometimes troubling images which confront meaning and preconceptions." Jim Bennett, The Poetry Kit.
ECCENTRIC FISH
Dolly Sen's latest book, a book swimming with eccentric fish...
"Eccentric fish swimming in set concrete
But still making the shore
Still seeing the sun
Still growing flowers
Still smiling in a world of endless liars."
THE BOOK OF TORN UP SUICIDE NOTES
Suicide notes as poems? But not without a little humour.
“Very humorous and ironic, excellent work.” Magpie Marx, Launchpad
About the Author
Author, poet and activist Dolly Sen lives in Streatham, South London. Born in 1970, she had her first psychotic experience aged 14 which lead her to leave school. After years of mental illness, probably bought on by an abusive childhood, Dolly decided she should write about her experiences. She was inspired to write her own story after reading Jason Pegler's autobiography 'A Can of Madness'. She has since written five books, become a successful performance poet who has toured throughout Europe and has set up two charities. Dolly is a key figure in the mental health movement and regularly appears on television and radio talking about mental health issues.
Book Extract
I smiled and loved and laughed
As a child
Growing
Growing
Growing
Gone
I found my place in the world
- the madhouse
An empty room
A ticking clock
Measuring your eternal absence
With the vanity of the second
Taking all the time in the world
Oblivion is not total
I am aware of it.
Everyone’s an angel
Your sanity calls that madness
Your sanity’s
Your vanity
There’s no room in the mirror for you
Your mirror is on backward
Earthquake
Heartbreak
Somewhere
Something
Breaks
And This Is My Adopted Daughter
And This Is My Adopted Daughter
£12.00
By Marie Berger
ISBN: 978-1-84747-189-5Published: 2007Pages: 180Key Themes: relationships, adoption
Description
This emotional, turbulent and poignant book tells the story of Marie Berger's discovery that she was adopted. Marie only discovered this fact as the result of a playground argument. The book describes Marie's childhood and chronicles how she felt in finding that she was adopted, how she searched for and eventually found her natural mother – and how there was no fairytale ending. This is an intensely moving and excellently written book.
About the Author
Marie Berger was born in May 1945 in Reading, Berkshire. She trained to become a teacher and is also a qualified masseuse. She is now an author by profession and lives with her husband and her children in Lincoln. She is fond of travelling, foreign languages, pastel drawing and of course her writing.
Book Extract
On the doormat is a letter. I pick it up. I don’t recognise the handwriting. It’s postmarked New York, United States of America.
I only know of one person who lives there. And it couldn’t possibly be from her…could it?
Feverishly I tear open the envelope, unfold the notepaper.
My mind’s in a whirl. It’s impossible to take in the words. They swim across my line of vision. The bits I manage to read here and there don’t make sense…
I don’t know how long I’ve been standing here mesmerised. My mind’s blank. The neat script is dancing before my eyes.
This can’t be happening. It must be a dream.
I blink rapidly, shake my head, and try to focus on reality. But there’s no way I can get a grip on myself standing like a zombie here in the hallway. I must get out.
I put on my coat, wander bewildered into the first café I come to. I sit in a corner, order a coffee, sip the hot liquid. I can’t stop shivering.
I hold my breath, force myself to start at the beginning, concentrate on each word. I begin to read…
Dear Marie Teresa,
I really don’t know how to begin. Aunt Maud and Aunt Margaret came to visit me a week ago. I hadn’t seen them for twenty-five years and they waited a week before telling me about you. They were scared. They gave me your letters and the lovely photos of the children I had never told anyone but Lorne, my husband.
Marie Teresa, it wasn’t on your birthday I thought of you. My heart cried out for you every day. When I had you I had no one to turn to and then I had to work and it was so hard to find anyone to take care of you. It wasn’t like today. I gave you up so you would have a happy life with a mother and a father. I was never given their address and I knew years later that I should have taken you to Belfast to your granny but I thought the shock would kill them. When you were born you were the image of your grandpa.
So I had a long talk with Lady Winifred Ewes who was in charge of the adoption agency. She was about seventy and her advice to me was to give you up for your sake.
I didn’t get married in England, I came to America to a great aunt. If I’d been married in England I would never have parted with you. I came to America in 1947 and then met Lorne in 1948. But after I came to America I saw things were different and I wrote to Lady Winifred to see if I could get you back. She wrote back and said that in a few months she was coming to America to visit some relatives and she would contact me when she arrived, which she did. This was in 1947. I asked her then, “Could you get my baby back because I could provide for her now?” and she said, “I could try but I doubt it. Leave Marie Teresa where she is, she has a little sister named Rita and she’s happy and it might break her heart.” So I kept in contact with Lady Winifred. Then one day a letter was returned – “deceased.”
I married Lorne, told him everything, and he wanted you but we had no one to contact. Never a day went by that I didn’t wonder how you were and at night I prayed to God to keep you safe. I took it as my cross to carry. John was born in 1949 and he looked like his grandpa, too. How many times he said, “Mammy, I wish I had a sister,” and I would cry and he wouldn’t understand.
When Aunt Maud told me about you it took her a week because she was afraid about Lorne. When I told Lorne that Maud had said you’d written and she gave me all your letters and photos Lorne cried too. Then John came in. Of course he wanted to know why we were all crying so I told him the story and he cried and said, “I have a sister! Why didn’t you tell me years ago?” I told him I was afraid to and he said, “Mammy, you carried that secret and your heartbreak, all those long years wasted.”
I’ll regret till the day I die that I gave you up. I hope you will forgive me but I thought I was doing the right thing so you would be happy. I read all your letters to Aunt Maud and I feel better that you are so wise and understand. Every day was hard but your birthday was awful. But Marie Teresa, I dreamed, loved and prayed for you all these years.
In one photo you look like I looked when I was young and in another photo you are the image of your Aunt Margaret. They say she looks like me.
Too bad Aunt Maud didn’t tell me sooner but I told her I’m so grateful that she wrote to you and kept in touch. After lady Winifred died I had no place to contact. I went back to Belfast in 1955 for a few months. Then I got arthritis and I had to use crutches and I never seemed to get better. A few months ago I fell down the doctor’s steps and broke my arm and John’s wife Laura wrote to Aunt Maud. She cried and said, “I wish I could see Mary” and Uncle Albert says, “Well you are going,” and went and booked the plane. She didn’t tell you because she wanted to tell me first and God help her, she was scared, it took her almost a week.
Thank God you have a good husband, Les, and three beautiful children. How I have regretted all these years not seeing you growing up. I’ve read all your letters to Aunt Maud many times over and looked at the lovely photos. John is thirty-one years old now and was so happy and understanding. I was afraid to tell him but he saw his dad and me and Aunt Maud and Aunt Margaret crying so we told him. He cried and was so happy.
I hope this letter won’t interfere with your mother and father for all I ever wanted was for you to be happy. I had no choice when I gave you up and I saw your mother and father were nice. Lady Winifred said you would be happy there and I was doing the best thing.
The children are beautiful. One day, please God, I will see you and your husband and children. I am unable to travel at this time, but knowing Aunt Maud heard from you has made me so happy. It’s too bad we’re so far apart. John said right away, “Tell my sister to come.” John is married and has two beautiful girls, six and three.
Well, Marie Teresa, I’ll end now. It has eased the pain seeing your photo and the three beautiful babies. I hope I will hear from you. Letters today take from five to twelve days airmail. The mails are terrible.
So God bless you and Les and the children and keep you safe. And well you were loved and prayed for thirty-six years.
Love,Mum
Clutching the letter tightly I walk out into the street. Tears are streaming down my face. Nothing can make up for the lost years.
*
It’s been an arduous journey across the Atlantic.
Eleven-week-old Ben has slept in his air cot throughout most of the long flight. Les and I have tried hard to keep Simon, Rachel and Nathan calm on their first plane journey, their first visit to the Nana they’ve never met. Quite naturally, with so much happening they’re over-excited.
They also have to cope with a postnatally depressed mum. Ben and I were only discharged yesterday from the Mother and Baby Unit in the Psychiatric Department. And Mummy never visited, wrote or phoned. Pills help mask the despair and hopelessness but they don’t take them away. I’m looking out of the window, praying I can continue to act normally during our month-long stay with Mum.
It’s taken a year since her first letter to save for this moment. I mustn’t let anyone down, especially her; not after the many letters of love, hope, regrets that she parted with her baby.
In my bag is a black-and-white photo she sent. She says it’s the one decent picture she’s kept. I treasure this image of my mother taken twenty years ago when she was in her thirties. The sleek dress shows off a good figure. She holds her head high. Thick, wavy dark hair frames an attractive face. I admire her fine bone structure, lovely eyes and full lips. I love her soft Irish / American accent when we talk on the phone.
I’m proud of my mother. She’s beautiful in every way.
We go though Passport Control.
I wonder how I’m going to recognise my half-brother. John has given us a rather unflattering description of himself and told us he’ll be wearing a short-sleeved, light-blue shirt.
A heavy-set man, jumping up and down, his bearded face wreathed in smiles, has spotted our noisy brood. He’s hurrying towards us. He’s in tears.
Perhaps I should be emotional but I’m drained. I’m intrigued, though, by the round, freckled face, the non-stop talk. At first sight he’s so like me. Extremely demonstrative, he hugs us each in turn, lingering to hold me by my shoulders at arm’s length.
“You look just like Mum! I can’t get over it!” he exclaims. “Come on, she can’t wait to see you.”
He drives us to upstate New York, chatting about his wife, his three children, Mum, his dad.
I doze fitfully. John is still talking. We’ve come at a good time, he enthuses. They’re having a hot summer.
I can’t say much. I leave Les to make conversation with him.
It’s hours since we left the airport. I stare out of the window. We drive through a small town, past meadows, fields…
We turn sharply off the road down a narrow track that John says is part of the acres of land owned by his parents. I wind the window down, peer out into the twilight.
The car screeches to a halt outside a house. I fully expect to see Mum rushing towards us...
Suddenly I feel sick. This can’t be real.
£12.00
By Marie Berger
ISBN: 978-1-84747-189-5Published: 2007Pages: 180Key Themes: relationships, adoption
Description
This emotional, turbulent and poignant book tells the story of Marie Berger's discovery that she was adopted. Marie only discovered this fact as the result of a playground argument. The book describes Marie's childhood and chronicles how she felt in finding that she was adopted, how she searched for and eventually found her natural mother – and how there was no fairytale ending. This is an intensely moving and excellently written book.
About the Author
Marie Berger was born in May 1945 in Reading, Berkshire. She trained to become a teacher and is also a qualified masseuse. She is now an author by profession and lives with her husband and her children in Lincoln. She is fond of travelling, foreign languages, pastel drawing and of course her writing.
Book Extract
On the doormat is a letter. I pick it up. I don’t recognise the handwriting. It’s postmarked New York, United States of America.
I only know of one person who lives there. And it couldn’t possibly be from her…could it?
Feverishly I tear open the envelope, unfold the notepaper.
My mind’s in a whirl. It’s impossible to take in the words. They swim across my line of vision. The bits I manage to read here and there don’t make sense…
I don’t know how long I’ve been standing here mesmerised. My mind’s blank. The neat script is dancing before my eyes.
This can’t be happening. It must be a dream.
I blink rapidly, shake my head, and try to focus on reality. But there’s no way I can get a grip on myself standing like a zombie here in the hallway. I must get out.
I put on my coat, wander bewildered into the first café I come to. I sit in a corner, order a coffee, sip the hot liquid. I can’t stop shivering.
I hold my breath, force myself to start at the beginning, concentrate on each word. I begin to read…
Dear Marie Teresa,
I really don’t know how to begin. Aunt Maud and Aunt Margaret came to visit me a week ago. I hadn’t seen them for twenty-five years and they waited a week before telling me about you. They were scared. They gave me your letters and the lovely photos of the children I had never told anyone but Lorne, my husband.
Marie Teresa, it wasn’t on your birthday I thought of you. My heart cried out for you every day. When I had you I had no one to turn to and then I had to work and it was so hard to find anyone to take care of you. It wasn’t like today. I gave you up so you would have a happy life with a mother and a father. I was never given their address and I knew years later that I should have taken you to Belfast to your granny but I thought the shock would kill them. When you were born you were the image of your grandpa.
So I had a long talk with Lady Winifred Ewes who was in charge of the adoption agency. She was about seventy and her advice to me was to give you up for your sake.
I didn’t get married in England, I came to America to a great aunt. If I’d been married in England I would never have parted with you. I came to America in 1947 and then met Lorne in 1948. But after I came to America I saw things were different and I wrote to Lady Winifred to see if I could get you back. She wrote back and said that in a few months she was coming to America to visit some relatives and she would contact me when she arrived, which she did. This was in 1947. I asked her then, “Could you get my baby back because I could provide for her now?” and she said, “I could try but I doubt it. Leave Marie Teresa where she is, she has a little sister named Rita and she’s happy and it might break her heart.” So I kept in contact with Lady Winifred. Then one day a letter was returned – “deceased.”
I married Lorne, told him everything, and he wanted you but we had no one to contact. Never a day went by that I didn’t wonder how you were and at night I prayed to God to keep you safe. I took it as my cross to carry. John was born in 1949 and he looked like his grandpa, too. How many times he said, “Mammy, I wish I had a sister,” and I would cry and he wouldn’t understand.
When Aunt Maud told me about you it took her a week because she was afraid about Lorne. When I told Lorne that Maud had said you’d written and she gave me all your letters and photos Lorne cried too. Then John came in. Of course he wanted to know why we were all crying so I told him the story and he cried and said, “I have a sister! Why didn’t you tell me years ago?” I told him I was afraid to and he said, “Mammy, you carried that secret and your heartbreak, all those long years wasted.”
I’ll regret till the day I die that I gave you up. I hope you will forgive me but I thought I was doing the right thing so you would be happy. I read all your letters to Aunt Maud and I feel better that you are so wise and understand. Every day was hard but your birthday was awful. But Marie Teresa, I dreamed, loved and prayed for you all these years.
In one photo you look like I looked when I was young and in another photo you are the image of your Aunt Margaret. They say she looks like me.
Too bad Aunt Maud didn’t tell me sooner but I told her I’m so grateful that she wrote to you and kept in touch. After lady Winifred died I had no place to contact. I went back to Belfast in 1955 for a few months. Then I got arthritis and I had to use crutches and I never seemed to get better. A few months ago I fell down the doctor’s steps and broke my arm and John’s wife Laura wrote to Aunt Maud. She cried and said, “I wish I could see Mary” and Uncle Albert says, “Well you are going,” and went and booked the plane. She didn’t tell you because she wanted to tell me first and God help her, she was scared, it took her almost a week.
Thank God you have a good husband, Les, and three beautiful children. How I have regretted all these years not seeing you growing up. I’ve read all your letters to Aunt Maud many times over and looked at the lovely photos. John is thirty-one years old now and was so happy and understanding. I was afraid to tell him but he saw his dad and me and Aunt Maud and Aunt Margaret crying so we told him. He cried and was so happy.
I hope this letter won’t interfere with your mother and father for all I ever wanted was for you to be happy. I had no choice when I gave you up and I saw your mother and father were nice. Lady Winifred said you would be happy there and I was doing the best thing.
The children are beautiful. One day, please God, I will see you and your husband and children. I am unable to travel at this time, but knowing Aunt Maud heard from you has made me so happy. It’s too bad we’re so far apart. John said right away, “Tell my sister to come.” John is married and has two beautiful girls, six and three.
Well, Marie Teresa, I’ll end now. It has eased the pain seeing your photo and the three beautiful babies. I hope I will hear from you. Letters today take from five to twelve days airmail. The mails are terrible.
So God bless you and Les and the children and keep you safe. And well you were loved and prayed for thirty-six years.
Love,Mum
Clutching the letter tightly I walk out into the street. Tears are streaming down my face. Nothing can make up for the lost years.
*
It’s been an arduous journey across the Atlantic.
Eleven-week-old Ben has slept in his air cot throughout most of the long flight. Les and I have tried hard to keep Simon, Rachel and Nathan calm on their first plane journey, their first visit to the Nana they’ve never met. Quite naturally, with so much happening they’re over-excited.
They also have to cope with a postnatally depressed mum. Ben and I were only discharged yesterday from the Mother and Baby Unit in the Psychiatric Department. And Mummy never visited, wrote or phoned. Pills help mask the despair and hopelessness but they don’t take them away. I’m looking out of the window, praying I can continue to act normally during our month-long stay with Mum.
It’s taken a year since her first letter to save for this moment. I mustn’t let anyone down, especially her; not after the many letters of love, hope, regrets that she parted with her baby.
In my bag is a black-and-white photo she sent. She says it’s the one decent picture she’s kept. I treasure this image of my mother taken twenty years ago when she was in her thirties. The sleek dress shows off a good figure. She holds her head high. Thick, wavy dark hair frames an attractive face. I admire her fine bone structure, lovely eyes and full lips. I love her soft Irish / American accent when we talk on the phone.
I’m proud of my mother. She’s beautiful in every way.
We go though Passport Control.
I wonder how I’m going to recognise my half-brother. John has given us a rather unflattering description of himself and told us he’ll be wearing a short-sleeved, light-blue shirt.
A heavy-set man, jumping up and down, his bearded face wreathed in smiles, has spotted our noisy brood. He’s hurrying towards us. He’s in tears.
Perhaps I should be emotional but I’m drained. I’m intrigued, though, by the round, freckled face, the non-stop talk. At first sight he’s so like me. Extremely demonstrative, he hugs us each in turn, lingering to hold me by my shoulders at arm’s length.
“You look just like Mum! I can’t get over it!” he exclaims. “Come on, she can’t wait to see you.”
He drives us to upstate New York, chatting about his wife, his three children, Mum, his dad.
I doze fitfully. John is still talking. We’ve come at a good time, he enthuses. They’re having a hot summer.
I can’t say much. I leave Les to make conversation with him.
It’s hours since we left the airport. I stare out of the window. We drive through a small town, past meadows, fields…
We turn sharply off the road down a narrow track that John says is part of the acres of land owned by his parents. I wind the window down, peer out into the twilight.
The car screeches to a halt outside a house. I fully expect to see Mum rushing towards us...
Suddenly I feel sick. This can’t be real.
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